Hvordan klarer storebror det?

Hej derude

Mange af mine tanker inden jeg fødte gik rigtig meget på hvordan Zacharias i en alder af kun 13 måneder ville tackle at blive storebror.. Ville han føle sig overset? Ville han bliver sur/ked af det? Ville han overhovedet forstå det? Jeg har haft mange scenarier oppe at vende og nu vil jeg fortælle lidt om han han har klaret den store opgave at blive storebror 😊

Da vi kom hjem fra sygehuset fik vi Zacharias hjem samme aften, det var for os super vigtigt at få ham hjem og fastholde de vanelige rutiner for hans skyld og vi kunne ligeså godt vende os til den nye hverdag fra start af. Da vi kom hjem stillede vi liften på gulvet og lod under opsyn Zacharias kigge derned, og han ænsede på ingen måder sin lillebror, faktisk prøvede han bare at kravle op i liften, da den var super spændende! Senere på aftenen da lillebror græd, stoppede han dog op og lyttede meget intenst, man kunne sagtens se at han vidste det var et barn der græd, men at det kom fra hans lillebror kunne han ikke forstå.. hehe

Da det blev nat var det dog et rent helvede, han var vågen uafbrudt fra kl 01 til 04, og ligegyldigt hvad vi gjorde, om det var søren eller jeg der gik ind til ham, tog ham op og vuggede ham eller kyssede og krammede ham så hjalp INTET .. Han var bund ulykkelig. Og sådan har nætterne faktisk været indtil for 5 dage siden.. For mig har det tydeligvis været en reaktion på hele omvæltningen, han har søgt ekstra tryghed om natten hvor han som altid bliver ammet og på den måde får dækket et stort trygheds behov. Det har været super hårdt! Utroligt at storebror kan være den svære om natten da hans lillebror bare bliver ammet sover 3 – 4 timer, bliver ammet og sover 3 – 4 timer osv osv. Han er bare så nem?

Derudover er han blevet EKSTREMT grænsesøgende, selv hans dagplejemor har sagt at han søger grænser hele tiden og det er tydeligt at han er blevet storebror.. haha 😀 Han laver alle mulige åndssvage ulykker og når man skælder ham ud og fortæller det er forbudt (en vending vi bruger i stor stil) Ja.. Så griner han bare fjoget og fortsætter ellert løber væk, han lukker totalt af for det man siger, og puha man må til tider tælle langsomt til 3 og trække vejret dybt.. For så meget forstår han jo heller ikke at man kan tillade sig at blive direkte sur på ham. Og hvis man så er skarp, og flytter ham eller tager noget fra ham, ja så smider han sig på gulvet og skriger, rigtig opmærksomhedskrævende.. Det ignorerer vi for det meste, for hvis vi reagerer på det fortsætter det i lang tid og han får kørt sig selv op, men hvis man mere eller mindre ignorere det, så går det over efter 30 sekunder – møgunge 😂

Her efter et par uger er han dog blevet mere bevidst om hans lillebror, når man kommer ind af døren og lillebror står i liften på gulvet så går Zacharias straks hen og kigger ligeså fint ned til ham, og græder lillebror så løber han hen og kigger til ham, og hvis han er i kravlegården mens han græder prøver han nærmest at kravle op for at se ham – total sødt ? Derudover så har han lært at “ae, ae” efter vi har sagt det på repead og vidst ham hvordan man gør, så oftest hvis jeg sidder og ammer lillebror så går Zacharias lige forbi og aer ham automatisk på hovedet, til tider bliver det dog lidt voldsomt og går over i noget kradsen, (ikke bevidst) så man skal lige holde øje når han gør det 😊

Men alt i alt synes jeg han har klaret det super flot! Han er stadig den samme skønne og sjove dreng der bare altid er i godt humør, og at han allerede nu viser en form for omsorg viser i min verden at han allerede bliver verdens bedste storebror.

 

 

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Hello out there

Many of my thoughts before I gave birth went very much on how Zacharias at the age of only 13 months would tackle becoming a big brother … Would he feel forgotten? Would he be mad/sad? Would he understand it? I have had many scenarios up in my head and now I will tell a little about how he has handled the task of being big brother son far😊

When we came home from the hospital we got Zachary home to that evening, it was for us super important to get him home and retain our routines for his sake and we could just as well get used to our new life from the start. When we got home we put the lift with little brother in it on the floor and allowed Zacharias to look under supervision, but he took no notice of his littlebrother, actually he just tried to climb up in the lift, because it was super exciting! Later in the evening, when little brother cried, he, however, stopped up and listened very intensely, you could easily see that he knew it was a child who was crying, but that it came from his little brother he could not understand … hehe

When it was night, it was hell, Zacharias was awake continuously from at 01 am to 04 am, and no matter what we did, whether it was Søren or I who went in to him, took him up and cradled him or kissed and hugged him, NOTHING helped … He was so unhappy. And this has actually been how the nights went until 5 days ago … For me it has obviously been a reaction to the whole change, he has an extra need of peace of mind at night and constantly want to breastfeed and in that way get covered a large comfort needs. It has been super hard! Unbelievable that big brother can be the difficult at night and his little brother just breast-fed sleeping 3-4 hours, will be breastfed and sleeps 3-4 hours etc etc. He is just so easy ?

In addition, he has been EXTREMELY cross seekening, even his daycare mother has said that he seeks borders all the time and it is clear that he has become a big brother … haha 😀 he’s doing all sorts of accidents and when you sAyse no and telling him that it is prohibited (a phrase we use in all the time) Yes … So he just goofy laughs and continues to run away, we must sometimes count slowly to three and breathe deeply …. He does not understand that much that you can be mad at him directly. And if you are sharp, and move him or takes something from him when he misbehaves, so he throw himself on the floor and screams, real attention demanding … We mostly ignores it, because if we react on it, it goes on for a long time, but if you more or less ignore it, so it goes over after 30 seconds 😂

Here after a few weeks, however, he has become more aware of his little brother, when we enters the door and little brother staying in the lift at the floor then Zacharias goes straight over and look down to him, and is he crying so he runs over and look for him, and if he is in the play pen while he cries, he almost tries to climb up in there to see him – total sweet ? he has learned that “in addition, ae , ae “after we’ve said it on repead and showed him how to do it and if I sit and breastfeed little brother then Zacharias comes past and aer him automatically on his head, sometimes it becomes kind of violently and go over in some kind of tinkering, (not intentionally) so you must just keep an eye out when he does it 😊

But all in all, I think he has tackled it super nice! He is still the same wonderful and funny boy who just is always in a good mood, and he already shows a form of care of his little brother, in my world that he has already become the world’s best big brother.